Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Ability Does Not Mean Obligation

Ability does not mean Obligation.

For example, I have the ability to be a civil engineer. In fact, I have a bachelor's degree in civil engineering, but that by no means obligates me to become a civil engineer (even though I could potentially be a darn good civil engineer ;). Actually, I am capable of being a great many things. Becoming a civil engineer was one of the original plans I had made for myself, but those plans have since changed.

Let's go further back in time...
Before the plan of becoming a civil engineer, I wanted to become a fashion designer; it was my dream thoughout middle school, until one day my mother informed me that I would not get credit for my work. Thinking that I would not have my name on my line of clothing subsequently killed the dream. So I went on to finding another path... which brought me to pursue a math-related career. My math teacher at the time repeatedly uttered "If you like math, then be an engineer." So I researched engineering via my parent's encyclopedias, because I had no idea what an engineer was or did for a living. After reading the brief descriptions of the many subfields of engineering, I still had only a faint idea about what they did all day. Reading about civil engineering resonated with me... Building a structure like a sky scraper or a bridge seemed ambitious and respectable! I could leave my mark on the world.

Off to college I went,,, an ambitious young woman bent on becoming an engineer, and eventually starting my own engineering firm, and then retiring as an engineering professor some day. That was the plan. As you emerse yourself in any culture, engineering included, you begin to learn the jargon/lingo and its other little intricacies... I soon found out that Structural Engineers (who build sky scrapers and bridges) often spend most of their time shut up in an office doing calculations. Through attending college and becoming a slightly more social person, being shut up in an office all day didn't sound appealing to me. Despite my uneasiness about this prospect, I finished my degree.

Soon after graduating, I discovered that... perhaps I no longer wanted to work as the invisible gears of the moving vehicle that is society. There are people with master's degrees applying for jobs that they are overqualified for. The engineering job market is flooded (which is something that I had not anticipated). Why should I compete for something that I have little remaining interest in? My heart wouldn't be in it. I chose to see the opportunity that awaits me, despite the difficult market that we currently live in. There is no better time than now - right now - to do what I want to do with my life.

Today, I love my freedom, and I love being in charge. It only makes sense that I would create my own path in life. Not being a quote "professional" in a blouse and slacks (I rarely wear dresses or skirts, by the way) does not make me any less valuable as a working person. Decidedly, my path in life has taken a different turn than was anticipated. I have learned to deal with the change and the subsequent alterations to my outlook on my life, plans, and goals. As a result, I also have to learn to deal with people's expressed perceptions of my work, beit positive, negative, true or false. People can think whatever they want. Perhaps part of the new job that I have taken on is going to be creating value for my profession and changing people's perception of what it is I do. Let it be known... I enjoy a challenge. Bring it on! :)

Thanks for reading. Hopefully, my story inspires you to follow your dreams and passions in life, beit in a big or small way. I try my best to pursue my own happiness. I hope that you find happiness too. It's the best thing in life. (That's my opinion anyway.) Have an awesome day! ;)

Monday, October 17, 2011

Great News and Upcoming Events!

Select Lightning Cat crocheted hats are now available on!
* Rainbow Kitty Hat
* Puppy Dog Hat
* Pink and Black Kitty Hat (coming soon!)
* Monocled Mr. Teddy Bear in Disguise Hat (coming soon!)

November 3   Indie Made Pop-Up Show    5:00-9:00pm
108 N 6th Street, Boise, Idaho
(On 6th Street between Main and Idaho Street)

November 11   Idaho Flair Shopping Experience   3:00-9:00pm
1200 Clear Creek, Boise, Idaho
(On Clear Creak near Five Mile and Overland Road)

November 12   Idaho Flair Shopping Experience   9:00am-6:00pm
1200 Clear Creek, Boise, Idaho
(On Clear Creak near Five Mile and Overland Road)

December 9   Idaho Flair Shopping Experience   3:00-9:00pm
1200 Clear Creek, Boise, Idaho
(On Clear Creak near Five Mile and Overland Road)

December 10   Idaho Flair Shopping Expeience   9:00am-6:00pm
1200 Clear Creek, Boise, Idaho
(On Clear Creak near Five Mile and Overland Road)

Thursday, August 18, 2011

My Ex's - A General Timeline

This is a general timeline of my ex's, or rather of people I have dated. I will not be posting their names. Instead, I will post a descriptive phrase as a substitute for each one's name.

High School Sweetheart
Or should I call him my high school broken heart? I had such a soft spot in my heart for this guy. He was the life of the party, always goofing around and making fun of everyone. Being around him took my mind off everything else that was going on in my life. I hoped he would ask me out, but my impatience got the best of me and I asked him out. Not much changed after that; we hung out more and I got to hold his hand.

I'm not really sure why we broke up. He remembers it differently than I do. He remembers it as I broke up with him. I remember it as us having a discussion during school, where he told me he didn't want "permanence," whatever that meant. Pretty much I thought he was breaking up with me, but then he kept saying it was my decision. That day I went home from school utterly confused and feeling heart broken.

I cried my eyes out for hours. My mother was bewildered and didn't know what to do other than to try to listen. I was so upset because the first serious conversation that he and I had was him breaking up with me and then saying that it was my decision. I felt that he had already made his decision. Why would I be with someone who didn't want to be with me? After talking to my mom, I figured the best thing to do was tell him we were over.

The next day, I still felt like crap. I went to school, asked to talk to him and told him we were broken up. I felt miserable after that. A couple weeks went by, I saw him with another girl (she was so trashy looking). I couldn't believe it. The sight of them almost made me puke up my lunch. This moment proved my mother right; "Men are scum." After that, I closed off my heart. I wasn't letting anyone in.

Leather Jacket and Tight Jeans
He was in one of my college classes. I thought he was hot in a bad boy way with his black leather jacket and tight jeans. Turns out, he was one of those guys who are hot until they open their mouth and talk. The extent of our relationship was making out in his truck. The crack that sunk the ship was he called me late one night totally drunk and wanted to bone something.

The next time I saw him, I blew a fuse! I told him how rude and disrespectful he was to me on the phone. I pretty much told him to fuck off and never talk to me again.

I met him while working on a construction site. My first thoughts after meeting him were, "Wow! And I thought I was the most stubborn, sarcastic person I ever met!" He was a little over twice my age, but I didn't care. The only thing that annoyed me was when he called me "young lady."

Crazy but Lovable
Usually I don't date guys after I find out they've done drugs. I stear clear of addicts like they are the plague. On our second date, he told me he smoked marijuana and asked me if that was a problem. Looking at him, that explained a lot... like his laid back personality. I told him it didn't bother me as long as that's all it was. (It turns out that he's done shrooms, and I bet he's done other drugs he didn't tell me about.) I've never gotten along with someone so well. We had fun wherever we went. He even liked my disturbing jokes and goofy sayings.

The first time I went over to his house, the experience was surprising,,, to say the least. There was clutter in the doorway, not just shoes but actual furniture like a big tv in a dusty tv cabinet. I took off my shoes before realizing that the carpet was dirty and stained. I was horrified after he told me that stain had been there for years; apparently, his friend had a bad reaction to shrooms. We sat on the couch. I tried to deal with it because I was on a personal self-improvement mission to be less judgmental and controlling. He told me that they haven't vacuumed in years because their vacuum is broken (due to the shroom guy's puke). I looked around feeling kinda itchy at the sight of the place. The last straw was when I saw a cockroach! His reaction to seeing the cockroach was a shrug. I had to leave... I got up and put my shoes on. As I was tying my shoes, there was yet another cockroach crawling around the shoe pile.

He followed me out asking what was wrong. I told him nothing and that I just think we should meet somewhere else. He asked me if I was ashamed of him and he started crying, which made me feel bad. In the next few days, he told me he bought a vacuum and that his dad took the furniture that was in the doorway.

One of the things that bothered me was the stubborn way he argued with me. It was like arguing with myself. One time, we had a riddiculous argument about computer science versus computer engineering. He said they were the same; I said they were different.

The Nicest Guy
He is seriously the nicest guy I have ever met. He is nice to everyone. He reminds me of myself back in middle school, when I was super nice to everyone (to the point of being a doormat) and super shy/quiet. When I first met him, he told me he was a "realist." Usually I stear clear of people who say they are realists, because that's crap! No one is a realist.

Our first date was at a Thai restaurant close to the university. We both lived on campus. So we walked to the restaurant together and had dinner. When it came time to pay the bill, I offered to pay half. At the time, I was a strong feminist and I wouldn't even let him hold the door open for me. He paid the bill. So I insisted on at least paying the tip. He was like no, no, no that's okay. However, I insisted and put tip down on the table anyway. We proceeded to leave the restaurant, and he picked my tip up and tried to give it back to me. I refused to take my tip back; he was just going to have to keep it.

As we walked back to campus, he kept trying to give me my money back. He went so far as to stuff it in the hood of my sweatshirt. I then dropped the money on the ground. I told him to just throw the money away if he wasn't going to take it. He picked up the money and started jumping up and down in front of me, still trying to get me to take it back. I started to realize I didn't know him that well and he was acting crazy. His odd behavior freaked me out, and I kicked him in the nuts.

He fell to the ground, and I immediately felt bad that I had kicked him. I asked him if he was okay. I told him he was acting crazy and that's why I kicked him in the nuts. He said he was fine. I believe after that he stopped trying to give me my money back.

The only thing that bothers me about him is that he is so reserved. He doesn't say much and has difficulty expressing himself. When communication is the number one thing in a relationship, this presents a problem.

Despite our problems, he has stolen my heart.

In Conclusion...
Dating different people helped me decide what I really want in a relationship. I've dated different types of guys ...and had a number of interesting experiences. I find that what's most important to me is that they have drive or ambition and they know how to listen and also share their thoughts. Finding someone who knows how to have fun but also knows when to be serious is also important to me.

My advice to someone currently in the dating game is to take things slow, especially when it comes to intimacy. It is important to find out whether or not you are compatible before getting into a full-fledged relationship. Hopefully you find someone who truly cares about you and makes you happy. :)

Friday, June 24, 2011

My Newest Entertainment Findings

I just discovered the band Austra this week. Austra has a very unique sound, which I can't get enough of at the moment. I bought both of their mp3 albums online, Feel It Break and Beat And The Pulse. I still have to listen to the Feel It Break album, but right now the entire Beat And The Pulse album is my favorite. If you like unique female indie bands, you should have a listen. I also bought the song Our Love Saves Us by one of my all-time favorite bands Blindside. I can't stop listening to this song and all three songs on the Beat And The Pulse album.

In other news... My best friend sent me a link to her newly opened blog. She is an awesome writer and one of the sweetest, smartest persons I have met. Check out her blog The Bookworm Speaks! :)

Lightning Cat news... I am looking for local models in Boise, Idaho to model Lightning Cat merchandise. Here is my Call for Models. Please read for more information.

Have a nice day! :) Feel free to comment below.

Lightning Cat - Call for Models

Spread the word! Lightning Cat of is looking for local models in Boise, Idaho to be photographed wearing Lightning Cat merchandise.

Interested? Call or email Stephanie at (702) 289-8570 or

Looking for female models that can show off what Lightning Cat represents:
• female strength
• femininity
• beauty (or alternative beauty)

I’m not looking for mainstream beauty.

Some tattoos and piercings are fine. All hair colors (including bright colorful hair) are welcome! Mixed ethnicity is a plus! :) If there is something unique or different about you, then contact me!

I’m looking for fun, energetic models who bring a smile and positive attitude to a photo shoot!

This could turn into an ongoing job if I like your look. :)

**Under 18 will need permission from parent(s).

***All models must sign a release form.

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Limited Edition Bespectacled Mr. Bear in Disguise!

I present to you... the NEW! Limited Edition Bespectacled Mr. Teddy Bear in Disguise. And here Mr. Bear is in text characters:  P - ^ This cute beanie is a labor of love, as it takes me about 5 hours to make one. Mr. Teddy Bear has a spectacle on a chain and a snazzy mustache, all crocheted by hand.

Upcoming Event...

Thursday, July 7th, 2011
I will be at the First Thursday Pop-Up Show in downtown Boise. Drop by to chat and check out the cute merch!

In Other News...
On May 21st, I went to the Eisley show at the Venue. Eisley playing live was amazing! They played through their whole new album The Valley and even a few old songs. I got to hear my favorite song I Could Be There for You live! There was also an excellent local band that opened the show. I think they were called the Falcons. I just downloaded The Valley album this week, and my new favorite songs on this album are The Valley, Watch it Die, Better Love and Ambulance.

Flying Piggy! :D
Here is my latest drawing, the Flying Piggy! ^ = ^ I came up with the cute piggy, because I was inspired by other artists' cute drawings that I have seen at art fairs and online. I believe in the power of positive images, and "cuteness" has a positive aura that lifts people's spirits. Thus, I decided to draw something bright, colorful and especially cute

I hope you enjoy the cuteness! ^ = ^ Have a wonderful day! And I hope to see you at First Thursday!

Feel free to comment below. ;)

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Back into the Blogging...

So I guess I have been kind of distracted lately. Luckily I came up with some new items, like the Teddy Bear Beanie and kitty hats in that time, despite the distractedness.

Random word of the day:

foofaraw \FOO-fuh-raw\, noun:
A fuss over a matter of little importance.

I've been trying to become more focused. Meditational yoga helped, but now I need answers to my questions about how to better run the Lightning Cat shop. So I am reading up on the subject and making a few changes to my shop. One of those changes, as you might notice, is an increase in prices. Last year, I did not make much money due to charging too little for items and not charging for packaging and gift wrapping. The increase in prices is so that I can sustain my business and not fall into a bottomless money pit of doom. I'm sure you understand. No one wants to fall into a bottomless money pit of doom, or so I would like to think so.

Anywayz, I hope you enjoy your day and avoid any foofaraws!

Friday, May 20, 2011

Marriage Is Like A Bandaid

On top of my culmination of crazy ambitions to be rich and rule the world (See previous post), I have a crazy strong urge to get married and have millions of babies. Although I am deathly afraid of being married and having kids, I feel that I need to be married and have lots of babies. Sometimes I am confused as to whether I really want this or I am just being incredibly impatient. I see all these cute babies and I wants one! They're so cute. I know my babies would be uber-cute and rule the world; and they'd have the brains to do so. Perhaps marriage is like a bandaid, and you've just got to pull it off real quick and get it over with.
I don't want some big religious wedding. It would be hypocritical since I'm an atheist. I want karaoke and drinking at my committment ceremony (or wedding, whatever you want to call it)! I just want the whole thing to be a fun time with close friends and family. (I'm not into traditional stuff.) I really want to sing (perhaps with a band) meaningful songs to my sweetie. I think it would be awesome! And then get drunk and have a ball. ;-)
Forever impatient with the slow pace of life,
Stephanie ;-)

Edit: I just added a new page titled Live Green! to my blog! Scroll down to find it under the "Pages" column on the right, or click here. This new page has tips on how to live green and a recipe for a natural household cleaner! :)

Figuring Out What I Want

This is my attempt at figuring out what I want. I suppose most of what's bothering me is figuring out how to get what I want, since I pretty much know what I want. So I made a bubble chart in an attempt to figure it all out and help myself to be more focused. I guess I'm just an impatient person who wants everything now, now, now.

Edit: Actually, right now all I want is a nice tan and not to worry about this crap. I'm thinking about making my bubble chart into an artpiece. My scribbles are somewhat illegible; sorry! :P

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

New Teddy Bear Beanie

My newest and cutest creation is the Teddy Bear Beanie! A few nights ago, I was crocheting a beanie with big bear ears, and I decided to add eyes and then a little bear nose. ^ - ^

NEW Teddy Bear Beanie!

I'm getting ready for the Art in the Bar III on June 4th at the Knitting Factory in Boise, Idaho. If you live in the area, please plan to attend! :) I'll be there, along with 40 other artists, selling my original artwork and handmade goodies. I hope to see you there! It's going to be a fun event.

Join me for Art in the Bar III!

Free domestic shipping on your entire purchase at the Lightning Cat shop this month, with coupon code: YAY4U

In other random news... I just discovered the awesomeness of the music by The Stills. Unfortunately, the band broke up last month. :C Fortunately, there's such a thing as digital music and their albums are online. ;-) I just downloaded "Don't Talk Down," "Being Here," and "I'm With You."

Have a nice day! ^ - ^

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

New Rainbow Scarves and Cat Hats!

Lightning Cat

New crocheted items have been added to the shop, including new rainbow scarves and cat hats!
Vibrant Rainbow Scarf
Rainbow Scarf
Dumpster Cat Hat
Pink and Black Striped Cat Hat
In other news, I am excited to announce that Lightning Cat's anniversary is in just a week! The Lightning Cat Etsy shop began shortly after I was let go from an internship due to a poor economy. Out of the unfortunate came something great: I found what I enjoy doing! I love to make new and interesting items for my shop. :) From the beginning, creativity has been the very center of Lightning Cat. I try to make new and fun things that people can enjoy. The first year had its ups and downs as I was learning how to run a business and fulfill the needs of my customers. Fortunately, the Lightning Cat shop is still here and going strong! I look forward to another exciting year action-packed with new ventures and fun creations! I hope to continue to give my customers and fans a pleasant and sometimes entertaining experience. I appreciate all the love and support I have received since the opening of my shop. To all of my supporters, thank you very much! And here's to another fun-filled year!
In celebration of Lightning Cat's anniversary this month, here is coupon code for 20% off your entire purchase: LCBDAY. This coupon code is valid for the month of April and should not be combined with other coupon codes.